I hear this word all the time. Passion. What are you passionate about? What is your true passion? But these are the wrong questions to be asking. The correct question to ask yourself should be “What is your Purpose?”
Passion will only get you so far. You may be passionate about writing. But if you don’t write every single day, even if it’s only one sentence, you probably won’t succeed at it. You may be passionate about creating recipes. But if you don’t test recipes out regularly, you probably won’t become a top food blogger.
Your purpose is essentially your mission, it’s where you’re going. Your purpose should combine something you are good at, something others can gain value from, and something that you enjoy doing. You can have several interests and passions, of course, but only a few would meet all three criteria. Ask yourself the following: What energizes me? What gets me up in the morning? Be honest with yourself.
You hear a lot about “finding your purpose.” Many thought leaders and so-called lifestyle gurus preach the importance of finding this purpose that will fulfill you and bring you joy. However, I believe that it is less about finding and more about experiencing, testing, and trying different things until you realize the golden combination.
Once you know your purpose, how do you work towards making it a reality?
The power of setting a goal and working towards it every single day is astounding. Every little bit plays a huge role in helping you reach your destination.
The best way to build discipline is to set goals that you’d like to reach each day, then create a routine based on these goals.
Let’s use the writing example as it is what I am working on right now.
If my purpose is to become a top freelance writer, then some goals I can start with can be writing at least 500 words per day, reading articles daily, and coming up with at least one idea per day to add to my ongoing list.
My routine to realize these goals can be to wake up early in the morning, make a cup of coffee, turn my laptop on, and start writing. It’s important to try different things and to be flexible though.
In my case, writing in the morning didn’t work for me, my creative flow works better at night when everyone else is asleep and I have the living room to myself. So, I re-oriented my approach and kept going!
Continuing in the Face of Failure
Without failure, reaching your goals wouldn’t be as exciting or feel like as much of an achievement. You are going to face many roadblocks on the way, but the key is to build your mental strength and to face these problems with a positive mindset.
You can’t stop just because something isn’t going the way you expected it to. As my mother loves to say, “there is a solution to everything except death.” The only time you stop going is when you’re dead, other than that, you have to keep pushing.
You have to see giving up as not even an option to truly persevere. Life can be brutal. You’re going to have to muster a lot of grit to get through it, especially when you’re trying to realize a greater purpose that perhaps the people around you are not that supportive of. You need to keep going, no matter what.
However, at the same time, you also have to balance this with being kind and gentle with yourself when necessary. If you push too hard, you will burn out. If you push too little, your goals won’t be realized. With practice, you will find the right balance that works for you.
To do all the above, you’re going to have to start. In my case, I started by literally writing one sentence per day. One. Sentence. That’s all. That’s how I started.
Start small, bit by bit. If you start too big, you might end up falling off track, which happened to me last year. My first goal was to write one story per day. It didn’t work. I simply wasn’t ready to write an entire story in a day alongside my other responsibilities.
The key is to start, to launch that beginning, not to bite off more than you can chew when you’re just founding your for-purpose journey!
Without a purpose, a reason for being, life can seem rather bleak. Remember that we are all here for a purpose. Find your purpose, your “personal legend” as Paulo Coehlo would say, and life will have so much more meaning and hope.